Yeah, he’s just getting to the age where that’s starting to be feasible, so we will see how it goes!

I think the problem for me is that going and doing things like that regularly requires a lot of time, which would mean I would have to sacrifice my own projects or sacrifice time with my kid, both of which I don’t want to do. I don’t really want to make friends with coworkers, because I tend to consider them a liability. Relationships can change, and as you get to know someone you can find out things about them that stops you from wanting to be friends (they’re a secret republican, etc). If a work friendship goes south, you now have a potentially hostile coworker with intimate knowledge about your life, which can directly impact your livelihood. Sooo I have like three friends, each of whom are from my twenties or earlier, and two of whom live hundreds of miles away. I’m not unhappy, though.

Using racism in a critical way is still racist

I appreciate the quality and depth of your comment, but I am also skeptical because every red “delicious” I’ve ever had has tasted like apple-flavored cardboard pulp molded into the shape of an apple. I admit that my interest is piqued, though. It must have tasted pretty different at one time to be an award winner.

I think it’s worth pointing out also that Reddit moved away from vote-based ranking like 10 years ago. They use an algorithm for ranking as well. The karma scores you see next to posts are not their actual vote tally. The numbers are assigned by algorithm with the votes just being a factor that influences the final number. I hated that change. It was probably the earliest sign for me that things were going in a bad direction.