That’s good to hear!

I can speak on donating, but Ihave some thoughtson this

to reply “don’t worry, I’ll be fine” and placate her

To me that reply sounds more dismissive than reassuring, and it would not placate any worry wart in my life. I would focus my reply on the concerns raised. It wouldn’t have to be a long message since it seems she mostly wants to speak her mind and not necessarily have a conversation or anything productive come if it more than expressing herself.

I personally would reply something like: "I understand it’s scary for you to think about this surgery. Children should never outlive their parents, which means you have to deal with that losing me at some point, but it won’t be for many years yet. 'What if’s are indeed scary, but I have made my decision. If any ‘what if’ arrives we can deal with it then, instead of worrying already about ten of them that may never happen.

I wonder why you feel resentment and anger towards Kevin and not towards me, when I am the one making this decision and creating this worry in you. Are you perhaps redirecting your feelings from me towards a safer outside party? Something to consider in your next therapy session perhaps. I hope you know ots safe to be angry with me, even when youre scared of losing me.

I love you, and I would not risk doing this procedure if I thought it would shorten the time we have together in any way."

But that’s how I would feel.

I would also quietly get my affairs in order, even though I really don’t think it’s a risky procedure. Prepared, not paranoid. And it never hurts to have ordered affairs - you might be hit by a car on the way to surgery.

If dental care is free, go see a dentist asap and tell them about your issues.

If medical care is free or cheap I highly recommend you see a doctor as well, to tell them about your issues around food and eating, both emotional and physical.

They can prescribe high calorie, high nutrition drinks to supplement and support your diet. And a lactose neutraliser if you’re intolerant and the drinks contain milk. And possibly an appetite stimulator to make eating seem more appetising.

Don’t fall into the trap of eating less food because you think the oil will substitute it. Remember that the goal is to add the oil to your intake as well as all the food you would normally eat.

That’s probably because youre not used to the fiber. If you eat a small amount every day or every other day your body should adapt to it, then you can eat more and more of it without pain.

You can start by adding just a tablespoon or less of hydrated beans to your omelette.

I just painted it with nail polish. Not longer soft, but at least not sticky and you can use different colours, paint on some designs, glitter or plain boring clear polish.

Haven’t dared do it for movable parts, especially not ones that go into any unreachable mechanical areas, in case the movement makes it flaky in time. But as long as you can open and clean it out it might be worth a try.

Music. It’s mind-altering and mood-altering.

The hens I’ve met abandons most of their eggs, for most of the year. If the hen abandons the egg, it won’t grow or hatch regardless of fertilization, so as long as you only take the abandoned eggs, a rooster makes no difference in the ethics of eating those eggs.

The difference is that what I’ve heard a flock usually does better and feels better with a rooster (this may be propaganda from Big Rooster), and if you don’t interrupt the nesting process (I dont know the English word for it, when the hen lays on the eggs until they hatch?), you’ll keep putting more of the birds into the world which may not be ethical according to the person.

So positives and negatives, but no difference in the abandoned eggs.